Are you having a hard time recently and you feel like you should just suck it up? Take it like a man and push through. Is it okay to be upset? Then this video is for you!
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We’re all told that when we’re upset about something it’s not good to dwell and sit in it. It’s better to look at the bright side and be positive. But that can actually be really crappy advice and here’s why.
If we don’t allow ourselves to process whatever is going on with us that is the crappy thing, those emotions and feelings will stay stuck within us and eventually poison us. It’s like an infection. When you have an infection you don’t just wait for it to go away by sending positive thoughts to it, you go get it drained or treated so that the infection comes out and then the wound can heal. If we don’t get the negative energy out, there’s nowhere for it to go. So it will build and build and build and then we’ll either explode or we’ll become one hell of a nasty human being. Either of those options is not good so let’s talk about how to get rid of it.
You pick your poison. Scream, punch a pillow, punch a person (just kidding don’t do that), cry it out, yell to a friend who will just sit there and listen, talk to a therapist or counsellor, journal… do whatever it is that works for you and get it out. Sit in it for a bit, feel it and let it out. That is ok. And it’s really hard to do if you’re not used to doing it. That little voice inside your head will be nagging you “suck it up. Don’t be a sissy. Ya big baby”.
We are told our whole lives to suck it up and don’t cry and be strong and push through but that is making a world full of miserable people because we are so full of built-up anger and sadness and frustration.
We’re constipated. Our whole bodies are constipated. And the only way to get it out is to let it out. Then you can move on and be positive and learn from it. But not until you let it out of your system first.
So first you want to sit in it and really feel it. Ask yourself what’s really going on and get to the root of the issue.
Then you want to punch or scream or cry or whatever feels good to you in order to be able to release it.
And then you want to let it go. I promise you will feel a lot better and be a happier human being. So give yourself that permission to feel bad. It’s the only thing that will make you feel good.
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