So what do you do when you start to feel aggravated, frustrated or mad about something and you just seem to sweat the small stuff?
I had the great pleasure to go to the Temple of the Universe and meet Michael Singer a few weeks ago and it was life-changing. If you haven’t read his books, I highly recommend them.
We were lucky enough to have 3 talks with him and during one of the talks, he taught us what to do when we start to feel aggravated, frustrated or mad about something. When this happens it’s stirring something up inside, right? You can feel it in your body. Well, he gave us a 3-step process to use to calm that feeling down before it catches fire.
Start with the “low hanging fruit”, is what he says. When we start small it trains us how to go bigger in the future. It’s a whole thing and you have to read his books to find out more but for today I am going to teach you how to deal with the small stuff so for one, you don’t let any more of it in and two, it will start to create some space inside. By not letting it in, you will start to be able to release the bigger stuff that’s trapped in there as well because of the extra space.
So by small stuff, I’m talking about when someone cuts you off in traffic or when your partner says something that pisses you off. Or those people who STAND on the walking escalator in an airport and you can’t get past.
Ok so step one. When you feel that feeling come up in you, think of a positive thought. I like to think of my dog or candy. But whatever works for you. Think of something positive, something that you’re grateful for. This changes your state right away.
The second step is to say your mantra. Mine is “I am God” (I totally stole that from Oprah) but it reminds me that I’m a part of something so much bigger than I can imagine and am built with the same energy as the trees and the birds and earth and so on.
But again, it’s going to be personal to you. Others can be “I release what I cannot control” or “Hakuna matata”…whatever that is for you. This will calm you down, ground you and remind you that that thing is not important in the grand scheme of things.
And the third step is to relax and release it. Just see that feeling in front of you and see it move on by.
That’s it! Those are the three steps and when you do them, it is life-changing.