Did someone do something to you that really peeved you off and you don’t know how to let it go? So how do you forgive someone who hurt you?
Forgiving those who have hurt us can be really tough sometimes. But it’s really important to know how to do this if we want to be happy and grow. And it’s also not good for us. Carrying resentment, hatred and anger can be poisonous. There’s a famous quote out there that says “hanging on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die”. Which obviously makes zero sense, so let’s talk about how to let go of the anger so we don’t drink poison and die.
It all comes down to realizing that your pain is no longer a part of your physical world. The hurt happened in the past; that’s over, it’s gone. That’s history now. It’s only a reality to you right now because you are carrying it forward in your mind. You are responsible for hanging on to it, no one else, and that’s why it’s still painful. Once you realize that it’s all in your mind and you are responsible for either carrying it with you or letting it go, you can start to actually let it go.
Every time you think of the negative experience, just sit with it for a bit. Pay attention to how it feels and why it feels that way. Don’t judge it or the other person or yourself, just acknowledge the feelings. After a couple minutes of that, close your eyes and see it. See the negative experience before you and imagine it either floating away or disappearing into thin air. Keep doing this anytime it comes up. Especially before bed. Have you ever noticed that your brain always thinks it’s a great time to think about all the crappy things right before you want to sleep? Yeah, it can be a real jerk sometimes. And our subconscious mind focuses on whatever we think of last, for 8 hours while you sleep, so choose your thoughts wisely.
Sit with it, see it and then let it go.
Now, this may be a hard pill to swallow, but in any kind of argument or disagreement or situation, with another person, there are always two of you. And even if it’s only 2%, there’s always a part that you are responsible for. So, take the time and man/woman up and own that. Ask yourself what you could have said or done differently. What part of it are you responsible for? How could you do things differently next time? By taking responsibility, you can then start to let it go and move on.