Today I’m giving your four tips to help you stop caring what other people think of you. Easier said than done, am I right?
A couple years ago I came across this quote:
“In your 20’s and 30’s, you worry about what other people think. In your 40’s and 50’s, you stop worrying about what other people think. Finally, in your 60’s and 70’s, you realize they were never thinking about you in the first place!”
Isn’t that great? And the reason for that is because people are too busy thinking about themselves! And that’s not a bad thing…it’s just the way we’re built! And if they are thinking about you it’s usually in relation to themselves. People have 50,000 thoughts a day. (That is not a typo) so even if they thought of you ten time in one day that’s only 0.02% of their daily thoughts.
You are never going to please everyone. It is impossible. Everyone is different, we all come from different experiences and histories with different beliefs and so on. The only thing that matters at the end of the day is that you stay true who you are to the best of your ability. Are you going to screw up from time to time? Yup. Absolutely. But as long as you learn from it and do what you got to do to make it right, that’s all you can do. Figure out who you are, love that person and stay true to yourself.
Read this quote by Marianne Williamson and read it daily.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Or you want to call it the Coach Carter quote, that’s cool too. I have this posted on my desk and read it all the time. It couldn’t be truer. By hiding and play small you are actually doing a disservice, not only to yourself but to the world. We were born to shine and to be the best we can be, so play big! Take those leaps. Be an example for others to do the same.
Realize that hurt people, hurt people. If you do find someone talking trash about you, remind yourself that it’s the people that are hurt and suffering that do that to people. So have an open mind and heart and move on. And commit to not doing that to others. I remember once when I was younger I was devastated that someone was spreading a rumour about me that was very untrue. And my mom just looked at me and said “Tamera, you have to let it go. The people who are close to you and love you and know who you are, are going to know it’s not true, and that’s all that matters”. Wise woman my mom. Know who are. Trust in that and move on.
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